I first wrote about Ke$ha’s questionable notion of the transgender community when I was writing for Examiner.com.
At that time, in an interview with The Advocate, Ms. Dollar Sign claimed to be a “huge fan” of the “transgender community” (you’d have to be a pretty huge fan if you liked the whole community – there are a lot of us, and we’re all different from each other).
But her idea of our community turned out to be “men with these banging bodies, dancing in heels, singing, and having so much fun with so much make-up on.” Umm … so she really wasn’t talking about any of us, except possibly drag queens who also identify as transgender.
I don’t pay much attention to Ke$ha, so I generally have no idea what’s coming out of her mouth. But thanks to Monica Roberts at TransGriot, I have now discovered that her latest foray into trans offense is her new song “Grow a Pear,” which contains the striking, nuanced, and insightful lyric “I just can’t date a dude with a vag.”
Gosh, Ke$h. You’re breaking my heart. But in a way, I can relate. I have a certain body-part requirement for my dates, too – a brain. So I guess you and I would never make it.
It’s actually a relief. Now I can get back to ignoring you, and you can get back to making money off the backs of people you claim to be a “huge fan” of.
I realize that this song is supposed to be a complaint about a “weak” man or some guy who “acts like a chick,” whatever that means – which is actually a pretty conservative, conventional, and restrictive concept of gender. John McCain probably has the song on his iPod.
But it truly amazes me that, when the suicides of so many young people are headline news, a supposed “teen idol” like you would seek to contribute to that by denigrating both people with non-standard bodies and non-traditional gender expression – members of communities that you say you are in alliance with.
Your awareness of the diversity of your followers is zero, and your desire to be “trans trendy” and “gender bendy” would be laughable if so many feelings – and lives – weren’t at stake.
What do readers think?
(Ask Matt Monday will return next week)