A reader writes: “I am a 32-year-old trans woman. I’ve been living in San Francisco for almost a decade now. I was wondering if you know of any small towns, say under 7-8,000 people, that are trans friendly or at least very liberal/open-minded. I have tried looking online and have yet to come up with anything.”
I thought this was a good question to put out there to the readers, because every so often, I get a question about trans-friendly towns and where to live. I am really not aware of any very small trans-friendly towns, other than possibly Trinidad, Colorado (population 9,096), but now that Marci Bowers has moved her practice from there, I don’t know if it’s changed.
The good thing about any town in Colorado is that our state has public accommodations and employment non-discrimination laws that cover trans people. The bad thing is that, even with laws in place, you can’t guarantee that they’re followed.
But I know there are readers out there looking for trans-friendly locations, and not everyone is looking for a small town. So I’m hoping that I can throw this out there and get some good feedback on cities and towns of all sizes that are trans-friendly or good places for trans people to live.
Readers, what would you recommend with regard to trans-friendly small towns, medium-sized cities, and large cities, however you define that? It would be nice if we could get a little list going, with some towns and cities of various sizes. And although the reader was asking about locations in the United States, I get readers from all over the world, so I would be interested in hearing about trans-friendly towns and cities anywhere.
My recommendation to someone looking for a fairly large city would be Denver. The population of the entire Denver Metro area is about 2.5 million, but Denver alone, within the city limits, is approximately 620,000 – and I think, overall, it’s about as trans friendly as you can get in the Midwest.
The LG population here is not as trans-friendly/inclusive/knowledgeable as I would like, but it’s a slow process. The area itself, I think, is pretty trans-friendly, and how many universities have a full-term, three-credit class devoted specifically to Transgender Studies, like the one I teach at Metro State?
So let’s hear it. Readers, what do you think?
And while we’re at it, here is the second letter. It could be from an old high school classmate – I’m not sure. But just for the record, I don’t know if Spencer, Iowa (population 11,200) is particularly trans-friendly, but I can say that my graduating class (Class of ’72) has been amazing (except maybe this person, below).
A reader writes: “why did u do this because u finally got to the age that u were no longer the most beautiful women in the room. u were so short sighted. I always thought u were smarter then this. signed u know who”
Dear i have no idea who,
i would try to explain this to u but i don’t think u would git it. but if u ever thought i was the most beautiful woman in the room, thank u. signed matt