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A reader writes: “I am a 48-year-old transgendered woman. I had a sex change operation at age 25. I am unable to get a job, go to school, or rent an apartment. There are laws against discrimination against transsexuals in this state, but they do not enforce the laws. “I used to have a career [...]

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A reader writes: “I am working very hard to teach my children to acknowledge their various privileges. Social justice parenting is extremely important to their father and I, but we know that because we are also riddled with various privileges that we will unintentionally pass on our biases to our children despite our best efforts. [...]

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A reader writes: “As a European living in New York, I find the U.S. health insurance system bewildering, to put it mildly. A German friend just had his bottom surgery done (is in the process of – seems to take a lot of steps, including complications) and there is no question that his health insurance [...]

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A reader writes: “I’m a gay trans man about four months on T, and I’m making plans to schedule top surgery soon. Although my overall gender identity is pretty much binarily male, my sexual identity seems more dual-gender, in that when I’m feeling aroused, nipple stimulation and visualizing myself with a mixture of both male [...]

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A reader writes: “I am a trans woman who transitioned at a young age. During this time, and for years after, I was pretty much unemployable, becoming stuck in a legal twilight where I didn’t have enough money to complete SRS and thus obtain full legal recognition as female, and due to other circumstances, retaining [...]

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Another new year is upon us, and I will admit that I’m the type to make New Year’s resolutions. I’m also the type to break them before January is out the door. I honestly can’t think of any resolutions that I’ve made that I’ve been able to keep long-term. Eat less? Well, less than the [...]

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A reader writes: “I am the grandmother of a young man (age 18) who is undergoing sexual confusion (his words) and is now discussing becoming a female. I am totally supportive of whatever decision he makes but don’t know how best to show him my support. I just want to understand what he is going [...]

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The holidays are once again upon us, and no matter which one you celebrate at this time of year, or even if you don’t celebrate at all, the forced cheerfulness of Christmas songs, glittery decorations, light displays, and other holiday hoopla can add to the seasonal blues of those who feel alone. This can be [...]

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A reader writes: “I am trying to think ahead on an awkward situation. I have the use of an STP (stand-to-pee device) down and have been using the men’s room for quite a while now. “I have yet been in a situation where I have had to hit the head with my father or brothers, [...]

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A reader writes: “I am 17 and transitioning and I wanted to ask you about parents. When I was younger, as often happens, my mum thought I would tell her anything and everything. She thought she was my best friend. “Since I came out to her (more than a year later than I did to [...]

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