A reader writes: “I’m a cis heterosexual woman (although I have enjoyed bisexual affairs in the past, just not recently). I met a young man at work who I really like. For his privacy here, I’ll call him Clint. In February there was a company-wide meeting with Clint and HR announcing that he was going [...]
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Ask Matt: Commitment and the Transitioning Trans Man
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations on April 12, 2012 | 4 Comments »
Ask Matt: When a ‘Mother Figure’ Transitions
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged coming out, family, hormones, trans men, transition on April 9, 2012 | 1 Comment »
A reader writes: “I have been transitioning for six months, and am one month on hormones, so I have not had many physical changes yet. I am out to my husband, and he has been wonderful and supportive. I am out to my professors at my college, and to most of my friends. “I am [...]
Ask Matt: Friends and Lovers
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, community, relationships on March 15, 2012 | 6 Comments »
A reader writes: “How do you ask someone out? As a trans person, is there any special advice you would give another trans person who is in love with someone (in this case, a close friend) and wants to try to confess his/her/hir feelings? “Is there anything that is different for a transperson, compared to [...]
Ask Matt: What are ‘Womanly’ Behaviors for a Trans Man?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged femininity, gender expectations, gender expression, masculinity, trans men on March 8, 2012 | 13 Comments »
A reader writes: “A comment on your most recent blog post about the transphobic bisexual woman got me (re)thinking about a timeless issue. “What does it mean (for a trans man) to act womanly or female-behaving? How does one know if they are effeminate or womanly? Is it the processing of emotions that female-assigned people [...]
Ask Matt: Reality Checks for a Son in Transition
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged assimilation, being out, bodies, gender expectations, gender identity, transition on March 5, 2012 | 19 Comments »
A reader writes: “Here is my question, which may or may not be written fully PC, so forgive me if it is not. My child is in the process of deciding about how far to take his gender change – and at age nineteen, is wisely not moving forward until he knows what he knows [...]
Ask Matt: Cremating Breasts After Chest Surgery
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged bodies, family, gender roles, health, identity, surgery on February 27, 2012 | 17 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a 48-year-old transguy, and I will finally be able to have chest reconstruction surgery in May. This is a big deal for me for all the usual reasons. It also holds special meaning as a transition point as a parent. While I am a straight, somewhat stereotypical binary-type of guy in [...]
Ask Matt: Why Do We Mistreat Our Allies?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged allies, community, etiquette, language on February 23, 2012 | 74 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am avidly following your posts about how the T relates to the rest of the acronym. I’d like to bring up the A (or one of the A’s, as the case may be). Many people in the Queer community tend to alienate our Allies. I think this is abhorrent. “I have [...]
Ask Matt: Why Do Some Lesbians Bash Trans Men?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged being trans, community, LGBT, trans men, transphobia on February 13, 2012 | 54 Comments »
A reader writes: “I was having a conversation with my mother the other night about Newt Gingrich and how I was really tired of all the GOP discussion that is constantly in the news. She brought up a fact I had forgotten about. She stated that Newt had a lesbian sister who definitely did not [...]
Ask Matt: Anti-Trans Discrimination Ruins Dreams
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, community, discrimination, employment, transition, transphobia on February 9, 2012 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a 48-year-old transgendered woman. I had a sex change operation at age 25. I am unable to get a job, go to school, or rent an apartment. There are laws against discrimination against transsexuals in this state, but they do not enforce the laws. “I used to have a career [...]
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Ask Matt: What Should Therapists Know About Trans Issues?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Information, Observations, tagged being trans, health care, language, therapy, transition on March 12, 2012 | 13 Comments »
A reader writes: “I have two related questions about psychotherapists and trans clients when the trans client is not specifically seeking transition-related medical approval stamps, but simply seeking psychotherapy for any number of things that may include trans and transition-related stresses. “For psychotherapists who are not very familiar with gender variation and trans issues, and [...]
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