A reader writes: “I’m a cis heterosexual woman (although I have enjoyed bisexual affairs in the past, just not recently). I met a young man at work who I really like. For his privacy here, I’ll call him Clint. In February there was a company-wide meeting with Clint and HR announcing that he was going [...]
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Ask Matt: Commitment and the Transitioning Trans Man
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations on April 12, 2012 | 4 Comments »
Ask Matt: When a ‘Mother Figure’ Transitions
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged coming out, family, hormones, trans men, transition on April 9, 2012 | 1 Comment »
A reader writes: “I have been transitioning for six months, and am one month on hormones, so I have not had many physical changes yet. I am out to my husband, and he has been wonderful and supportive. I am out to my professors at my college, and to most of my friends. “I am [...]
McDonald’s Happy Meals and Asking the Right Question
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged family, femininity, gender expectations, gender identity, gender roles, masculinity on March 29, 2012 | 27 Comments »
“Is the Happy Meal for a boy or a girl?” I had no idea that McDonald’s Happy Meals were gendered, but then I’ve never ordered one before this week. I’ve been suffering from a nasty bronchial thing, which I thought was improving but which then circled back on me. I still had to run some [...]
The Fallacy of ‘Cosmetic’ Surgery for Trans People
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged bodies, health, legal, surgery, trans women, transition on March 22, 2012 | 26 Comments »
A woman who was arrested last year for providing dangerous “butt enhancement” shots consisting of cement, caulk, tire sealant, and other toxic and troublesome substances is facing new charges as more victims come forward. I don’t know how many of this woman’s clients were trans, but I suspect that at least a few were. The [...]
Ask Matt: Friends and Lovers
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, community, relationships on March 15, 2012 | 6 Comments »
A reader writes: “How do you ask someone out? As a trans person, is there any special advice you would give another trans person who is in love with someone (in this case, a close friend) and wants to try to confess his/her/hir feelings? “Is there anything that is different for a transperson, compared to [...]
Ask Matt: What Should Therapists Know About Trans Issues?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Information, Observations, tagged being trans, health care, language, therapy, transition on March 12, 2012 | 13 Comments »
A reader writes: “I have two related questions about psychotherapists and trans clients when the trans client is not specifically seeking transition-related medical approval stamps, but simply seeking psychotherapy for any number of things that may include trans and transition-related stresses. “For psychotherapists who are not very familiar with gender variation and trans issues, and [...]
Ask Matt: What are ‘Womanly’ Behaviors for a Trans Man?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged femininity, gender expectations, gender expression, masculinity, trans men on March 8, 2012 | 13 Comments »
A reader writes: “A comment on your most recent blog post about the transphobic bisexual woman got me (re)thinking about a timeless issue. “What does it mean (for a trans man) to act womanly or female-behaving? How does one know if they are effeminate or womanly? Is it the processing of emotions that female-assigned people [...]
Ask Matt: Cremating Breasts After Chest Surgery
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged bodies, family, gender roles, health, identity, surgery on February 27, 2012 | 17 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a 48-year-old transguy, and I will finally be able to have chest reconstruction surgery in May. This is a big deal for me for all the usual reasons. It also holds special meaning as a transition point as a parent. While I am a straight, somewhat stereotypical binary-type of guy in [...]
Ask Matt: Why Do We Mistreat Our Allies?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged allies, community, etiquette, language on February 23, 2012 | 74 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am avidly following your posts about how the T relates to the rest of the acronym. I’d like to bring up the A (or one of the A’s, as the case may be). Many people in the Queer community tend to alienate our Allies. I think this is abhorrent. “I have [...]
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Jenna Talackova and the Myth of Trans Dishonesty
Posted in Commentary, News, Observations, tagged bodies, discrimination, femininity, trans women, transphobia on April 2, 2012 | 38 Comments »
By now, everyone is probably aware that the Miss Universe Canada pageant organizers have disqualified contestant Jenna Talackova from the pageant. The reason they have given publicly is that she was “dishonest” on her application – but trans people know the real reason. Apparently, pageant rules state that a person must be a “naturally born [...]
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