A reader writes: “I’m a 22-year-old trans guy just starting to feel my transition is mostly behind me. I’ve been perceived as male 100 percent of the time for maybe six months now, and I am semi-stealth. I had a strange experience the other day that raised a lot of questions for me about openness, [...]
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Ask Matt: Outing Yourself for the Comfort of Others
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged assimilation, being out, being trans, coming out, trans men, trans women, transphobia on October 24, 2011 | 10 Comments »
Ask Matt: Coming Out on a ‘Family’ Vacation
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being out, bodies, coming out, family, gender expectations, transition on June 30, 2011 | 10 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m going on vacation for a week at my friend’s place this August. She knows about my situation (20-year-old transman, pre-everything-I-plan-to-do), and she’s supportive. We’re going to stay at her father’s place, and her grandmother is going be there, too. “There lies the issue: Neither of them knows about me yet, so [...]
Ask Matt: Mom Says, ‘Don’t Go Stealth!’
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged assimilation, being out, family, gender expression, hormones, testosterone, transition on June 16, 2011 | 15 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a sixteen-year-old trans guy and I’ve been out to my immediate family for one year now. I’ve had many conversations with my mom about someday going stealth. She is extremely against it and says it’s deceitful – that it would be lying to people. She says I would be letting people [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Redirecting the Conversation
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged being out, coming out, community, family, privacy, transition on June 6, 2011 | 4 Comments »
A reader writes: “As someone who is beginning my physical transition from female to male, I’ve experienced a long buildup in terms of coming out to friends and family, figuring out where my support will come from, explaining my process and answering questions. “Although my transition is important to me and a huge part of [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Size and the Single Gay Trans Guy
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being out, bodies, Internet, relationships, sex, trans men on May 30, 2011 | 27 Comments »
A reader writes: “What do FTMs do if they are attracted to gay men who are more on the femme side? I’ve observed that some femme gay men can be petty about dick size. I’m a top and I’m not quite sure how to handle this situation.” This kind of reminds me of those “if/then” [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Small-Town Transgender Blues
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged activism, being out, being trans, community, employment, transphobia on May 23, 2011 | 6 Comments »
A reader writes: “I grew up in a small town where people don’t even want to admit that anyone can be GLB much less T or Q. This is not the best place to be at all different. Most of the community is country, redneck, rigidly religious, and not open to understanding anything outside of [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Living Stealth After Public Transition
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged assimilation, being out, community, Internet, stealth on March 21, 2011 | 9 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a college student navigating transition in an all-women’s college and often feel a sense of voyeuristic intrusion by my peers. How do I make sure that I can live a stealth trans life in the future, outside of college, when so many people have seen my transition take place – people [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Trans Men, Gay Communities
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being out, community, identity, LGBT, sexual orientation, trans men on January 3, 2011 | 37 Comments »
A reader writes: “How could one change the current climate for gay trans men in the gay male community?” My answer: One mind at a time. This is a continuation of last week’s Ask Matt Monday, which dealt with trans men and lesbian communities. And this is a tough one, because I think there is [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Transitioning Then Versus Now
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being out, being trans, discrimination, hormones, surgery, transition on October 11, 2010 | 4 Comments »
A reader asks: “Was transitioning when you did in the past much harder than it is to transition now? Or is it just different, depending on the person or situation?” I transitioned 13 years ago, and there were some things that were harder and some things that were easier. Let’s take a look: It’s easier [...]
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Ask Matt Monday: How Can We Make Progress If We’re Stealth?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged activism, assimilation, being out, coming out, discrimination, legal, transition on November 29, 2010 | 32 Comments »
A reader writes: “While I sometimes feel that I just want to be stealth, I am unable to allow myself such a luxury because I feel strongly that the only way that people like me can make a difference is to be very out, to get involved in our communities. “In my mind, the only [...]
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