A reader writes: “As someone who is beginning my physical transition from female to male, I’ve experienced a long buildup in terms of coming out to friends and family, figuring out where my support will come from, explaining my process and answering questions. “Although my transition is important to me and a huge part of [...]
Posts Tagged ‘coming out’
Ask Matt Monday: Redirecting the Conversation
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged being out, coming out, community, family, privacy, transition on June 6, 2011 | 4 Comments »
Ask Matt: A Visit with Dad
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged coming out, family, gender expression on May 12, 2011 | 12 Comments »
A reader writes: “My dad has asked me to visit him, and despite the poor state of our relationship, I have some reasons for seriously considering going. He recently moved, and I don’t really know any people where he currently lives. “My concern is that he will have told his new friends all about his [...]
Ask Matt: Trans Siblings Double Trouble for Parents?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged coming out, family, identity, transition, transsexual on May 5, 2011 | 10 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’ve had an idea that I might be transsexual for a number of years now. I’ve kept it pretty quiet until now, and even then have only muttered it to a couple people who I trust, because I’d like to start making some changes in my life. “My problem is this – [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Uncomfortable Introductions
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged coming out, etiquette, family, transition on April 11, 2011 | 10 Comments »
A reader writes: “My family has been super-supportive of my transition. My mom still lives in the same house, in the same neighborhood I grew up in, and although our city isn’t small, it is not uncommon to run into people we know when we are out. “I am willing to introduce myself as my [...]
When You’re Ready to Learn the Lesson …
Posted in Observations, tagged coming out, conferences, First Event, gender identity, Tiffany Club of New England, transphobia on January 27, 2011 | 16 Comments »
… the teacher will appear. Unless you’re the teacher. But sometimes, even then, you learn something. Last weekend, I presented at the annual First Event conference put on by the Tiffany Club of New England. Once again, it was an excellent event, with a fantastic Saturday men’s track organized by Anderson Clark, and Jamison Green [...]
Ask Matt Monday: How Do I Tell My Little Brother I’m Transitioning?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged coming out, family, gender expression, trans men, transition on January 24, 2011 | 18 Comments »
A reader writes: “If nothing goes wrong, I’ll be starting T this year – and I don’t know how to explain it to my brother. What I know for sure is that I can’t just hope he won’t notice my voice dropping and a beard and more hairs developing (and maybe balding, though I hope [...]
A Thanksgiving Coming Out: My Traditional Holiday Poem
Posted in Observations, tagged coming out, family, holidays, LGBT, sexual orientation, Thanksgiving on November 25, 2010 | 11 Comments »
If you have been reading my blog for a year or more (thank you!), you’ve already seen this poem. If not, I bring you my traditional Thanksgiving coming-out poem, which is gay-themed, not trans-themed, but still worth a read. So “Happy Holiday” to those of you who observe Thanksgiving, thank you to my wonderful readers, [...]
My Righteous Indignation Over Kye Allums Article
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged being trans, coming out, hormones, news, pronouns, righteous indignation, sports, trans men on November 15, 2010 | 7 Comments »
I try to keep my righteous indignation in check, but the story about trans basketball player Kye Allums that appeared in the Twin Cities Pioneer Press on Saturday got me so riled up that I had to dash off an e-mail to the author. Do Associated Press guidelines just fly out the window when the [...]
Ask Matt: When and How to ‘Out’ a Trans Loved One
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged coming out, family, transition on August 2, 2010 | 4 Comments »
Of course, the cardinal rule of outing is – don’t. But what if your spouse/partner/child/parent/best friend or other loved one has transitioned, and you happen to run into someone who doesn’t know? And what if that person says to you, “Oh, Mary, how’s your husband, Bill? I haven’t seen him in ages! What’s he doing [...]
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Ask Matt Monday: How Can We Make Progress If We’re Stealth?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged activism, assimilation, being out, coming out, discrimination, legal, transition on November 29, 2010 | 32 Comments »
A reader writes: “While I sometimes feel that I just want to be stealth, I am unable to allow myself such a luxury because I feel strongly that the only way that people like me can make a difference is to be very out, to get involved in our communities. “In my mind, the only [...]
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