A reader writes: “I am working very hard to teach my children to acknowledge their various privileges. Social justice parenting is extremely important to their father and I, but we know that because we are also riddled with various privileges that we will unintentionally pass on our biases to our children despite our best efforts. [...]
Posts Tagged ‘family’
Ask Matt: Non-Trans Privilege and Social Justice Parenting
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged being trans, discrimination, family, trans education, transphobia on February 6, 2012 | 5 Comments »
Book Excerpt: There She Is
Posted in Teeny Weenies Excerpts, tagged bodies, family, femininity, gender roles on December 26, 2011 | 18 Comments »
I am taking the holidays off as much as possible, so instead of a regular blog post, today I bring you an excerpt from my upcoming (ETA March 2012) book, Teeny Weenies and Other Short Subjects. One comment that I got frequently from readers of Just Add Hormones was that it didn’t address my childhood [...]
Ask Matt: A Concerned Grandmother, a Transgender Grandchild
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged coming out, family, gender expression, gender identity, trans women, transition on December 15, 2011 | 7 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am the grandmother of a young man (age 18) who is undergoing sexual confusion (his words) and is now discussing becoming a female. I am totally supportive of whatever decision he makes but don’t know how best to show him my support. I just want to understand what he is going [...]
Staying Happy During the Holidays
Posted in Advice, Information, Observations, tagged being trans, community, family, holidays on December 8, 2011 | 15 Comments »
The holidays are once again upon us, and no matter which one you celebrate at this time of year, or even if you don’t celebrate at all, the forced cheerfulness of Christmas songs, glittery decorations, light displays, and other holiday hoopla can add to the seasonal blues of those who feel alone. This can be [...]
Ask Matt: Peeing with Pop
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged bodies, family, gender roles, masculinity, privacy, restrooms, trans men on December 5, 2011 | 19 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am trying to think ahead on an awkward situation. I have the use of an STP (stand-to-pee device) down and have been using the men’s room for quite a while now. “I have yet been in a situation where I have had to hit the head with my father or brothers, [...]
Ask Matt: My Mom is Pulling Away from Me
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged coming out, family, gender, gender roles, relationships, transition on November 28, 2011 | 21 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am 17 and transitioning and I wanted to ask you about parents. When I was younger, as often happens, my mum thought I would tell her anything and everything. She thought she was my best friend. “Since I came out to her (more than a year later than I did to [...]
My Annual Thanksgiving Coming-Out Poem
Posted in Observations, tagged coming out, family, holidays, LGBT, sexual orientation, Thanksgiving on November 24, 2011 | 4 Comments »
If you’ve been reading my blog for over a year, you can probably skip this entry. Tradition (and my desire to take a vacation myself) dictates that, every Thanksgiving, I publish my Thanksgiving coming-out poem, so my faithful long-time readers have seen this before (maybe twice before!). For the rest of you – join the [...]
Controversy Compounded: Lesbian Couple Raising Transgender Child
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged family, gender identity, homophobia, LGBT, sexual orientation, transphobia on October 20, 2011 | 14 Comments »
Could we not anticipate the brouhaha? Even when a “nice,” “normal,” “perfectly acceptable” heterosexual couple recognizes that their child is trans and decides to takes steps to make the child’s life as comfortable as possible as soon as possible, they are blasted by all manner of folk who really need to be worried about their [...]
Ask Matt: Being the Best Mom of a Trans Man
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, Observations, tagged family, identity, trans men, transition on September 26, 2011 | 9 Comments »
A reader writes: “A dear friend of mine who was one of the first people I came out to e-mailed to say that her daughter of twenty-seven years has just come out to her as transgender. She was asking me for tips on how to be the best mom of a trans man. Through some [...]


Twins Reinforce What Trans People Know About Gender Identity
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged bodies, family, gender expression, gender identity, gender roles, transition on December 19, 2011 | 12 Comments »
The latest news about a trans child receiving legitimate help for a legitimate medical condition has the I-Know-What’s-Best-For-You-To-Do-With-Your-Own-Body crowd coming out of the walls again. A recent story in the Boston Globe reports on twins who were both assigned male at birth, with one expressing a female gender identity about as early as she could [...]
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