A reader writes: “I have been transitioning for six months, and am one month on hormones, so I have not had many physical changes yet. I am out to my husband, and he has been wonderful and supportive. I am out to my professors at my college, and to most of my friends. “I am [...]
Posts Tagged ‘family’
Ask Matt: When a ‘Mother Figure’ Transitions
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged coming out, family, hormones, trans men, transition on April 9, 2012 | 1 Comment »
Ask Matt: Cremating Breasts After Chest Surgery
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged bodies, family, gender roles, health, identity, surgery on February 27, 2012 | 17 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a 48-year-old transguy, and I will finally be able to have chest reconstruction surgery in May. This is a big deal for me for all the usual reasons. It also holds special meaning as a transition point as a parent. While I am a straight, somewhat stereotypical binary-type of guy in [...]
Ask Matt: Non-Trans Privilege and Social Justice Parenting
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged being trans, discrimination, family, trans education, transphobia on February 6, 2012 | 5 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am working very hard to teach my children to acknowledge their various privileges. Social justice parenting is extremely important to their father and I, but we know that because we are also riddled with various privileges that we will unintentionally pass on our biases to our children despite our best efforts. [...]
Book Excerpt: There She Is
Posted in Teeny Weenies Excerpts, tagged bodies, family, femininity, gender roles on December 26, 2011 | 18 Comments »
I am taking the holidays off as much as possible, so instead of a regular blog post, today I bring you an excerpt from my upcoming (ETA March 2012) book, Teeny Weenies and Other Short Subjects. One comment that I got frequently from readers of Just Add Hormones was that it didn’t address my childhood [...]
Twins Reinforce What Trans People Know About Gender Identity
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged bodies, family, gender expression, gender identity, gender roles, transition on December 19, 2011 | 12 Comments »
The latest news about a trans child receiving legitimate help for a legitimate medical condition has the I-Know-What’s-Best-For-You-To-Do-With-Your-Own-Body crowd coming out of the walls again. A recent story in the Boston Globe reports on twins who were both assigned male at birth, with one expressing a female gender identity about as early as she could [...]
Ask Matt: A Concerned Grandmother, a Transgender Grandchild
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged coming out, family, gender expression, gender identity, trans women, transition on December 15, 2011 | 7 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am the grandmother of a young man (age 18) who is undergoing sexual confusion (his words) and is now discussing becoming a female. I am totally supportive of whatever decision he makes but don’t know how best to show him my support. I just want to understand what he is going [...]
Staying Happy During the Holidays
Posted in Advice, Information, Observations, tagged being trans, community, family, holidays on December 8, 2011 | 15 Comments »
The holidays are once again upon us, and no matter which one you celebrate at this time of year, or even if you don’t celebrate at all, the forced cheerfulness of Christmas songs, glittery decorations, light displays, and other holiday hoopla can add to the seasonal blues of those who feel alone. This can be [...]
Ask Matt: Peeing with Pop
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged bodies, family, gender roles, masculinity, privacy, restrooms, trans men on December 5, 2011 | 19 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am trying to think ahead on an awkward situation. I have the use of an STP (stand-to-pee device) down and have been using the men’s room for quite a while now. “I have yet been in a situation where I have had to hit the head with my father or brothers, [...]
Ask Matt: My Mom is Pulling Away from Me
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged coming out, family, gender, gender roles, relationships, transition on November 28, 2011 | 21 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am 17 and transitioning and I wanted to ask you about parents. When I was younger, as often happens, my mum thought I would tell her anything and everything. She thought she was my best friend. “Since I came out to her (more than a year later than I did to [...]




McDonald’s Happy Meals and Asking the Right Question
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged family, femininity, gender expectations, gender identity, gender roles, masculinity on March 29, 2012 | 27 Comments »
“Is the Happy Meal for a boy or a girl?” I had no idea that McDonald’s Happy Meals were gendered, but then I’ve never ordered one before this week. I’ve been suffering from a nasty bronchial thing, which I thought was improving but which then circled back on me. I still had to run some [...]
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