A reader writes: “I am a trans man dating a trans woman. She has finished her surgeries, and I’m on hormone therapy, with no genital surgery yet. My girlfriend and I are trying to find ways to pleasure me without feminizing myself and without putting her back in the male role. She doesn’t want to [...]
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Ask Matt Monday: Trans Partners and a Sex-Role Conundrum
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged bodies, femininity, gender roles, masculinity, relationships, sex, trans men, trans women on January 17, 2011 | 19 Comments »
Ovulation: The Ultimate Insult?
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged bodies, femininity, gender roles, homophobia, masculinity, misogyny, trans men, transphobia on July 12, 2010 | 10 Comments »
I’ve suffered my share of insults in my life. I’ve been called stupid, ugly, fatty, spacey, weirdo, and slut – and those were all in the first 18 years. But it seems that the supreme insult was saved for adulthood (and manhood) – being asked if I was ovulating. A while back, on the night [...]
Debrahlee Lorenzana: Too Sexy for Her Job? Why it Matters to Trans People
Posted in Commentary, tagged Debrahlee Lorenzana, employment, femininity, gender expression, gender roles on June 4, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Debrahlee Lorenzana isn’t trans. But if what she claims is true, trans people should be concerned about her situation. Lorenzana has filed a lawsuit against Citigroup, claiming that she was fired from her job because her employer claimed that her appearance was too distracting to her (straight) male colleagues, according to The Village Voice. Her [...]
FAQ: When Did You Become a Man in Your Dreams?
Posted in FAQs, Observations, tagged femininity, gender identity, identity, masculinity, transition on May 11, 2010 | 11 Comments »
This isn’t really a frequently asked question — it’s an infrequently asked question, because most people don’t think of it. But I have been asked it more than once. I’m not talking about becoming the man of my dreams — that never happened (no Brad Pitt lookalike — testosterone only works minor miracles). But I [...]
Michele Bachmann, Sarah Palin, and My Cognitive Dissonance
Posted in Commentary, tagged femininity, feminism, Michele Bachmann, politics, Sarah Palin on April 12, 2010 | 8 Comments »
The only thing that could make the “double your hatred, double your rage” duo of Michele Bachmann and Sarah Palin worse would be to add Ann Coulter to the mix. But Bachmann and Palin have made Coulter even more irrelevant than she already was. Now Palin is stumping for Bachmann on the reelection trail, and [...]
Forgive Me for Loving the Isaiah Mustafa Old Spice Commercial
Posted in Observations, tagged femininity, gender expression, gender roles, gender stereotypes, masculinity, television on March 11, 2010 | 10 Comments »
As a card-carrying member of the trans language police, the gender language police, the sexism police, the heterosexism police, and several other fictitious law-enforcement organizations that don’t actually issue membership cards, I should hate this ad. I should be offended by the negative reference to a man smelling “like a lady” and why that’s a [...]
Just Call Me Ma’am: My Feminine Phone Voice
Posted in Observations, tagged being trans, femininity, gender expression, masculinity, trans men on February 1, 2010 | 20 Comments »
I give up. I have finally accepted reality. I will be ma’amed on the phone at least 60 percent of the time until I die. And if I keep getting angry and frustrated about it, that time will come sooner than I expect. So call me ma’am. It’s okay with me. I have been on [...]
Women in Dresses: Reinforcing Sexual Stereotypes?
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged femininity, gender expectations, gender expression, gender roles, gender stereotypes, Lucas Silveira, masculinity, trans men, trans women on January 28, 2010 | 4 Comments »
Why is a photo of trans man Lucas Silveira on a post about women in dresses and reinforcing sexual stereotypes? Because the lead singer for The Cliks was recently named Canada’s sexiest man in the 15th Annual Year End Readers’ Poll by Canadian music magazine Chart Attack. I think it’s great, and a lot of [...]
Women in Dresses: Reinforcing Gender Stereotypes?
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged femininity, First Event, gender expectations, gender expression, gender roles, gender stereotypes, masculinity, trans men, trans women on January 25, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
At First Event last week, and at many other conferences I’ve been to, the Saturday night banquet is the highlight of the conference and the culmination of all the hard work on the part of the planners and all the fun on the part of the attendees, so many choose to get completely decked out [...]
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It’s OK to be a ‘Princess Boy’ or a ‘Princess Girl’
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged books, family, femininity, gender expression, identity, masculinity, television on January 13, 2011 | 18 Comments »
“Princess Boy” Dyson Kilodavis and his parents have been making the rounds on blogs, news programs, and talk shows, and responses have, as usual, been mixed. Dyson came to everyone’s attention when his mother, Cheryl, released a nonfiction book, My Princess Boy, about a four-year-old boy who prefers “princess-type” clothes and other adornments generally reserved [...]
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