The “just like you” argument is about as old as time, dirt, and me. It probably emerged with the first person to be marginalized by a group in power, and there was likely enough of a difference between this person and that group that the group was able to justify shutting him or her out. [...]
Posts Tagged ‘gender expectations’
Trans People: Are We ‘Just Like You’?
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged assimilation, being trans, discrimination, gender expectations on January 26, 2012 | 23 Comments »
Thin Mint Morality Wars: The Girl Scout Cookie Boycott
Posted in Commentary, Information, News, tagged discrimination, gender expectations, gender expression, gender identity on January 19, 2012 | 24 Comments »
Last year, I wrote a guest post for the excellent blog Womanist Musings called “Leave the Kids Out of It,” about a brouhaha over gendered Halloween costumes. Now we’ve got another situation where kids are being dragged into adult morality wars. The Girl Scout Cookie boycott, organized to protest the admission of a trans girl [...]
Ask Matt: The Legalities of Marriage in Trans Land
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged being trans, gender expectations, legal, LGBT, relationships, same-sex marriage on November 21, 2011 | 17 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a transman in a committed relationship (6.5 years together) with a cisman. We met when I was still presenting as female, and he has been a source of unconditional love throughout the process. I hope to begin hormone therapy in early December, and he supports me. “We were in a [...]
Ask Matt: The Culture of ‘Male Bravado’
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged gender expectations, gender roles, masculinity, trans men on November 17, 2011 | 11 Comments »
A reader writes: “What experiences have you had with male bravado? A few weeks ago I had a situation in which I had to step up and face down a non-trans male in protection of a female co-worker. This was a completely new experience for me. I am physically a short-statured guy and he was [...]
Ask Matt: Correcting a Past Pronoun
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Commentary, tagged etiquette, gender expectations, gender roles, language, pronouns on October 13, 2011 | 12 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m reasonably clued about trans etiquette, but I’ve never really known what to do with this one. What pronoun do you use for a person when talking about them in their pre-transition past? What feels right to me is to use whatever gender they were presenting as at the time, but I’m [...]
Ask Matt: Correcting the Wrong Pronoun
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged community, etiquette, gender expectations, language, pronouns on October 13, 2011 | 9 Comments »
A reader writes: “What’s on my mind today is correcting pronouns. For example, I had a professor who in class has consistently referred to me as Mr., but who sent me an e-mail saying Ms. I was surprised because he had been referring to me correctly for some time and any official documents he might [...]
Meanness Doesn’t Equal ‘Man-ness’
Posted in Commentary, tagged gender expectations, gender roles, hormones, masculinity, testosterone on August 25, 2011 | 20 Comments »
One of the worst fights that I have ever seen – besides on television and in Sylvester Stallone films – was when I was a junior high teacher many years ago. I was in the classroom during a break, and a student came running in, shouting, “Miss Kailey, Miss Kailey (that was my name then). [...]
Ask Matt: Dealing with a Transitioning Coworker
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged discrimination, employment, gender expectations, gender expression, legal, transition on August 18, 2011 | 34 Comments »
A reader writes: “I have a coworker who, over the course of the four years we have worked together, made the transition from a man to a post-surgery woman. “I have tried to be supportive of each phase of the transition, but my coworker has made it increasingly difficult. Each phase was a surprise – [...]
Meet the New Gender Police – Same as the Old Gender Police
Posted in Commentary, tagged community, gender expectations, gender expression, gender identity, gender roles on August 11, 2011 | 18 Comments »
Two situations have recently come to my attention. At first glance, they appear to be completely different scenarios – opposites, in fact. But upon closer inspection, we can see that they are almost identical. Scenario 1: Several straight, traditionally masculine trans men gang up on some non-traditional gay and queer trans guys, telling them that [...]
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Ask Matt: Do Both Trans Men and Trans Women Prefer Female Partners?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged gender expectations, LGBT, relationships, sexual orientation on January 30, 2012 | 26 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a trans woman. Recently I have wondered why there seems to be a much greater percentage of trans women who seek relationships with women than trans men who seek relationships with other men. “Stephen Ira’s (Warren Beatty and Annette Bening’s son) story of having a boyfriend started me thinking. He is [...]
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