A reader writes: “How does one who generally has presented as femme find their male identity? How does one ‘come home’ to their true nature? I – and everyone else I know – have always presented as masculine or butch, so we always saw our maleness for the most part.” This is a tough question, [...]
Posts Tagged ‘gender identity’
Ask Matt: Coming Home to One’s True Nature
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged femininity, gender identity, masculinity, transition, transsexual on September 22, 2011 | 53 Comments »
Ask Matt: Petitioning for Name and Gender-Marker Change
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged gender identity, legal, transition, transsexual on August 29, 2011 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m just starting the process to get my name and gender marker legally changed. I was born and live in Colorado. I’m going to use the court system in a county that hasn’t seen a petition of this type, at least that I’m aware of. I will not be using a lawyer [...]
In the Beginning: My First Trans Support Group
Posted in Information, Teeny Weenies Excerpts, tagged being trans, books, community, gender identity, masculinity, transition on August 22, 2011 | 22 Comments »
Since we recently talked about trans support groups (if you missed that discussion, I invite you to read Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3), I thought that, in addition to today’s Ask Matt (see the post below), I would offer up an excerpt from my book-in-the-works. I present this experience in the hope that [...]
Meet the New Gender Police – Same as the Old Gender Police
Posted in Commentary, tagged community, gender expectations, gender expression, gender identity, gender roles on August 11, 2011 | 18 Comments »
Two situations have recently come to my attention. At first glance, they appear to be completely different scenarios – opposites, in fact. But upon closer inspection, we can see that they are almost identical. Scenario 1: Several straight, traditionally masculine trans men gang up on some non-traditional gay and queer trans guys, telling them that [...]
Ask Matt: The ‘It’ Word
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged coming out, community, gender identity, identity, language, pronouns on August 4, 2011 | 13 Comments »
A reader writes: “I came out as FTM to my friends about two years ago. Most of them took it well and started addressing me as male. The problem is that I live in small town, and my community of friends is made up of people from many surrounding small towns. Sometimes new people join [...]
Ask Matt: Why Did I ‘Change’ My Name?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged gender expectations, gender identity, identity, transgender on June 23, 2011 | 9 Comments »
A reader writes: “I have just started a new temporary job. When I entered the building, I discovered that I knew three people from previous jobs or friendships. At the beginning of my second week, I asked my bosses if I could be known by my preferred name – it is not a legal name [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Asking for a Marriage Blessing
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged family, gender identity, gender roles, relationships, same-sex marriage, trans men on April 18, 2011 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a transguy who’s been exclusively and quite seriously dating another transguy for about a year now. Though we have been dating for a relatively short time, I am sure I want to settle down with this guy. I plan on proposing soon. I am 99 percent sure he will say yes. [...]
What Does ‘Transgender’ Skeleton Mean For Us?
Posted in Commentary, Information, News, tagged being trans, bodies, gender expression, gender identity, gender roles, history, identity on April 7, 2011 | 14 Comments »
I’m not an archeologist (isn’t it funny how I’m always saying what I’m not – soooo many things I’m not), but the “transgender” skeleton discovered in Prague seems important to me. As the Pink News reports, the 5,000-year-old skeleton was determined to be male, but was buried in the manner that females in the culture [...]
A ‘Gender-Free World’ Might Default to Male
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged femininity, gender, gender identity, identity, masculinity on March 31, 2011 | 37 Comments »
In response to Monday’s post about the need to transition in a gender-free world, some readers questioned what such a world might look like and whether or not it could actually exist. I personally have no idea, but that has never stopped me from writing about something before. My theory, which was always kind of [...]
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Controversy Compounded: Lesbian Couple Raising Transgender Child
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged family, gender identity, homophobia, LGBT, sexual orientation, transphobia on October 20, 2011 | 14 Comments »
Could we not anticipate the brouhaha? Even when a “nice,” “normal,” “perfectly acceptable” heterosexual couple recognizes that their child is trans and decides to takes steps to make the child’s life as comfortable as possible as soon as possible, they are blasted by all manner of folk who really need to be worried about their [...]
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