When I get really stressed or upset, my skin breaks out. But my recent irritations have been small and haven’t resulted in a full-blown eruption – more like a minor rash. Some of the more trivial annoyances in the last couple of weeks have been: 1. I called the utility company and was ma’amed through [...]
Posts Tagged ‘gender’
Ticked-Off Trans Guy with Hives
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged Angie Zapata, being trans, gender, politics, transition, transphobia on October 25, 2010 | 12 Comments »
Update on My Friends Don’t Take Me Seriously as Trans
Posted in Ask Matt, tagged activism, being trans, gender, gender identity, identity, transphobia on October 11, 2010 | 1 Comment »
Update on Ask Matt: My Friends Don’t Take Me Seriously as Trans: For those of you following this situation and offering such very helpful advice and suggestions, the reader did send letters to the people involved in the LGB”T” organization that was misgendering him and refusing to acknowledge his identity, and he did receive responses [...]
Five Trans Tips for the Service Industry
Posted in Advice, Information, Observations, tagged etiquette, gender, gender expression, restrooms on August 26, 2010 | 17 Comments »
For people in the service industry, such as clerks, wait staff, and other service professionals, dealing with the public on a constant basis can be difficult enough. Add confusion over gender into the mix, and you’ve got a recipe for a really bad day. Not only that, but sometimes you can make or break your [...]
Ask Matt Monday: How Can I Determine a Person’s Gender?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged etiquette, gender, gender expression, relationships, transgender, transsexual on August 23, 2010 | 10 Comments »
A reader writes: “I interact with a clerk almost every day at a certain coffee shop. We talk to each other when I get my coffee, but I’m not sure if this person is a man or a woman. I’m also not sure if this person is trans or not. How can I find out [...]
Male, Female, Transgender – Pick One?
Posted in Observations, tagged gender, gender identity, identity, sex, transgender on July 1, 2010 | 25 Comments »
I was looking at an LGBT survey the other day, and the choices for “Gender” included “Male,” “Female,” “Transgender,” “Intersex,” and “Self-Identify.” There was no category for “Sex.” (My mom thought she was so clever – whenever she filled out a form that asked for “Sex,” she always put “Yes.” I never told her that [...]
Sex and the Insurance Company
Posted in Commentary, Information, News, tagged bodies, gender, health, health care, insurance, transition, transsexual on February 4, 2010 | 5 Comments »
My insurance company doesn’t know what I am. It seems to decide my sex based on what it doesn’t want to pay for. If I make a claim for something male-related, like testosterone or Finasteride (okay, it’s for prostate cancer, but it’s supposed to prevent male-pattern baldness), my insurance company says I’m female and denies [...]
Princess Parties for Everyone
Posted in Commentary, tagged femininity, gender, gender expectations, gender expression, gender roles, masculinity, transgender on October 8, 2009 | 8 Comments »
At a recent presentation on a college campus, a mother express concern to me that her young daughter wanted to have a princess birthday party. Now I can understand that concern — princesses have gotten a bad rap in our culture, primarily because, in most of our fairy tales, all they have to do is [...]
‘The Top 5 Silliest Questions to Ask a Transsexual Person’
Posted in Observations, tagged being trans, bodies, gender, restrooms, surgery, transsexual on September 8, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
When a transsexual person comes out, the non-trans people around him or her always have a bottomless well of questions — and this is not necessarily bad. It’s one way that non-trans people learn, and it can lead to greater understanding and acceptance. But Q&A can get tiresome when you’re trying to eat your dinner [...]
Getting Something Off My Chest
Posted in Observations, tagged community, gender, gender identity, identity, language, transgender, transition, transsexual on September 8, 2009 | 2 Comments »
No, this isn’t a top-surgery post. It’s another language post, but it was inspired by a post at Life Right Side Up called “Done with Transgender.” A friend sent me this during a rather long discussion we’ve been having about the meaning of various words in the “trans dictionary.” I encourage you to read the [...]
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Ask Matt Monday: Do You Get More Respect as a Man?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged being trans, gender, gender expectations, gender roles, masculinity, trans men, transition on November 8, 2010 | 22 Comments »
A reader writes: “Assuming people don’t realize you’re trans when they meet you, have you noticed a difference in the way strangers treat you since you transitioned? Do you get more respect as a man than you did as a woman?” These are interesting questions and ones that I get asked a lot. And my [...]
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