Could we not anticipate the brouhaha? Even when a “nice,” “normal,” “perfectly acceptable” heterosexual couple recognizes that their child is trans and decides to takes steps to make the child’s life as comfortable as possible as soon as possible, they are blasted by all manner of folk who really need to be worried about their [...]
Posts Tagged ‘homophobia’
Controversy Compounded: Lesbian Couple Raising Transgender Child
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged family, gender identity, homophobia, LGBT, sexual orientation, transphobia on October 20, 2011 | 18 Comments »
It Gets Better Because YOU Get Better
Posted in Advice, Information, Observations, tagged activism, being trans, Dan Savage, homophobia, Internet, LGBT, suicide, transphobia on October 21, 2010 | 6 Comments »
I was going to change the world. I was 23, female, and starting my first “real” job – as a social worker in Spencer, Iowa. But that was only the beginning of my grand quest that would pretty much save everybody from everything by the time I was finished. I was filled with hope (and [...]
‘Pro-Life,’ ‘Family Values,’ and Reclaiming Language
Posted in Commentary, tagged family, homophobia, language, politics, right wing, suicide, transphobia on October 7, 2010 | 7 Comments »
People in marginalized communities talk a lot and do a lot about reclaiming language that has been used against us in hurtful and harmful ways. “Queer” and “tranny” are words that have been reclaimed by some people in my community, and have been turned around to symbolize power, strength, or rebellion. But there are also [...]
Ovulation: The Ultimate Insult?
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged bodies, femininity, gender roles, homophobia, masculinity, misogyny, trans men, transphobia on July 12, 2010 | 10 Comments »
I’ve suffered my share of insults in my life. I’ve been called stupid, ugly, fatty, spacey, weirdo, and slut – and those were all in the first 18 years. But it seems that the supreme insult was saved for adulthood (and manhood) – being asked if I was ovulating. A while back, on the night [...]
Lance Reyna: More Violence Against Trans Men
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged crime, gender expression, homophobia, LGBT, sexual orientation, trans men, transphobia on June 28, 2010 | 6 Comments »
First Colle Carpenter, now Lance Reyna. And there have been many more — some unreported by the victim, some misreported by the press, some buried on the back page. But although the attacks on trans men have not yet reached the numbers we see with trans women (and probably won’t, for several reasons), they are [...]
Tolerance vs. Acceptance: Is There Really a Big Difference?
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged community, homophobia, language, transphobia on June 18, 2010 | 17 Comments »
Tolerance used to be buzz word in some marginalized communities hoping to gain equality — until people started to realize that “tolerating” something or someone was not a particularly favorable stance. You tolerate mosquitoes if you live in Iowa. You tolerate humidity if you live in D.C. You tolerate your neighbor’s lawn mower on Saturday [...]
It’s Time to Lose ‘I Didn’t Choose’ (to be Transgender)
Posted in Commentary, tagged activism, film, gender identity, homophobia, sexual orientation, transphobia on June 1, 2010 | 101 Comments »
I’m pro-choice, but in this case, I’m not talking about a woman’s right to choose. I’m talking about my right to choose, and my right not to be a victim of my birth. I just finished watching a new indie gay and lesbian film that had an interesting premise, but I felt like I was [...]
George Rekers: Anti-LGBT Minister Deplanes with ‘Rent Boy’
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged gender roles, George Rekers, homophobia, relationships, rentboy.com, sexual orientation, transphobia on May 8, 2010 | 8 Comments »
Add another (self-)hating homophobe to the list of apparently closeted gay men whose self-hatred leads them to punish themselves by fighting against the rights of LGBT people. George Rekers, anti-gay Baptist minister and co-founder of the Family Research Council, was caught on camera at Miami International Airport returning from a 10-day European trip that he [...]
LGBT: Sinking or Swimming Together
Posted in Commentary, Information, Observations, tagged community, homophobia, LGBT, sexual orientation, transphobia on December 14, 2009 | 4 Comments »
The last few days have involved much controversy over a blog post on The Bilerico Project written by Ronald Gold, a gay man who essentially denied the existence of transgender people. The post has since been taken down, and I’m not going to add to the discussion, as you can read some fine insights and [...]




How is ‘Ex-Gay’ a Sexual Orientation?
Posted in Commentary, tagged community, homophobia, LGBT, sexual orientation on February 16, 2012 | 16 Comments »
I don’t care for the current labels that we have for sexual orientation. I think they are confusing and confining, and I don’t think they truly represent the broad range of sexual and romantic attractions that actually exist in the species. While labels such as gay, lesbian, bisexual, straight, and even pansexual, omnisexual, and queer [...]
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