A reader writes: “What do FTMs do if they are attracted to gay men who are more on the femme side? I’ve observed that some femme gay men can be petty about dick size. I’m a top and I’m not quite sure how to handle this situation.” This kind of reminds me of those “if/then” [...]
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Ask Matt Monday: Size and the Single Gay Trans Guy
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being out, bodies, Internet, relationships, sex, trans men on May 30, 2011 | 27 Comments »
Ask Matt Monday: Comments on the Maryland McDonald’s Assault
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged crime, discrimination, hate crimes legislation, Internet, legal, restrooms, transphobia on April 25, 2011 | 17 Comments »
A few people have asked me what I think about the brutal attack on a trans woman by two other women at a McDonald’s near Baltimore, Maryland, last week. A McDonald’s employee filmed the attack, and the video is all over the Internet. If you have not yet seen it, beware – it is quite [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Living Stealth After Public Transition
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged assimilation, being out, community, Internet, stealth on March 21, 2011 | 9 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a college student navigating transition in an all-women’s college and often feel a sense of voyeuristic intrusion by my peers. How do I make sure that I can live a stealth trans life in the future, outside of college, when so many people have seen my transition take place – people [...]
Rep. Chris Lee: When Trans in a Headline Matters
Posted in Commentary, News, Observations, tagged discrimination, Internet, politics, sex, transphobia on March 3, 2011 | 16 Comments »
I have written before about the use of the terms transgender and transsexual in headlines. In many instances (far too many), the press goes after these words as if they were gold – and in a way, they are, if you want to sensationalize your news and get as much traffic as possible to your [...]
So Many Opinions, So Little Time
Posted in Commentary, Information, News, Observations, tagged gender expression, gender identity, gender roles, hormones, Internet, television, transphobia, transsexual on February 3, 2011 | 17 Comments »
So many things are happening that are significant to the trans community that I barely have time to read them all, let alone comment. Here are just a few of the many goings-on into which I feel compelled to insert myself: Saturday Night Live and the Estro-Maxx Skit Yes, trans people have a sense of [...]
Don’t Worry, Ke$ha. I Don’t Want to Date You, Either
Posted in Commentary, tagged gender expression, Internet, language, LGBT, masculinity, music, trans men on December 20, 2010 | 21 Comments »
And neither do any of the trans guys I know. In fact, for someone who tries soooo hard to be hip, you are making yourself less cool every day. I first wrote about Ke$ha’s questionable notion of the transgender community when I was writing for Examiner.com. At that time, in an interview with The Advocate, [...]
It Gets Better Because YOU Get Better
Posted in Advice, Information, Observations, tagged activism, being trans, Dan Savage, homophobia, Internet, LGBT, suicide, transphobia on October 21, 2010 | 6 Comments »
I was going to change the world. I was 23, female, and starting my first “real” job – as a social worker in Spencer, Iowa. But that was only the beginning of my grand quest that would pretty much save everybody from everything by the time I was finished. I was filled with hope (and [...]
Mutilating My Body? What’s it to Ya?
Posted in Commentary, tagged bodies, Internet, surgery, transition on September 9, 2010 | 13 Comments »
I should know better by now than to read random ramblings on the Internet, but the whole darn thing is full of them. You can’t go to a wax museum and not expect to see some creepy Jacqueline Kennedy statue that looks like she died at 35 and was propped up to be an exhibit, [...]
Old Spice: At Last, I Smell Like a Man
Posted in Observations, tagged gender expression, Internet, Isaiah Mustafa, masculinity, television on July 22, 2010 | 9 Comments »
I bought a bottle of Old Spice body wash this weekend. And as much as you know I love him, it was less about smelling like Isaiah Mustafa and more about remembering my dad. (I don’t really want to smell like Isaiah Mustafa. I want to look like him. And, failing that, I want to [...]
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Media Mishaps and My Ongoing Irritation
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged being trans, Internet, language, media on August 29, 2011 | 14 Comments »
Oh, the media! I was a member of the media for eight years when I wrote for, and later became managing editor of, Out Front Colorado, one of the oldest LGBT publications in the country. But while I’m not there anymore, as a blogger, some might still consider me a member of the media. Neither [...]
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