A reader writes: “I have two related questions about psychotherapists and trans clients when the trans client is not specifically seeking transition-related medical approval stamps, but simply seeking psychotherapy for any number of things that may include trans and transition-related stresses. “For psychotherapists who are not very familiar with gender variation and trans issues, and [...]
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Ask Matt: What Should Therapists Know About Trans Issues?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Information, Observations, tagged being trans, health care, language, therapy, transition on March 12, 2012 | 13 Comments »
Ask Matt: Why Do We Mistreat Our Allies?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged allies, community, etiquette, language on February 23, 2012 | 74 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am avidly following your posts about how the T relates to the rest of the acronym. I’d like to bring up the A (or one of the A’s, as the case may be). Many people in the Queer community tend to alienate our Allies. I think this is abhorrent. “I have [...]
I Can’t Get Over Being Told to ‘Get Over It’
Posted in Commentary, tagged allies, discrimination, language, transphobia on November 7, 2011 | 40 Comments »
It’s amazing what’s expected of us as trans people. We’re supposed to watch our trans sisters succumb to unspeakable brutality on a constant basis. We’re supposed to ignore the fact that we can be legally fired in thirty-eight states simply because we’re trans. We’re supposed to “understand” when we are denied admittance to public places [...]
Ask Matt: Correcting a Past Pronoun
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Commentary, tagged etiquette, gender expectations, gender roles, language, pronouns on October 13, 2011 | 12 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m reasonably clued about trans etiquette, but I’ve never really known what to do with this one. What pronoun do you use for a person when talking about them in their pre-transition past? What feels right to me is to use whatever gender they were presenting as at the time, but I’m [...]
Ask Matt: Correcting the Wrong Pronoun
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged community, etiquette, gender expectations, language, pronouns on October 13, 2011 | 9 Comments »
A reader writes: “What’s on my mind today is correcting pronouns. For example, I had a professor who in class has consistently referred to me as Mr., but who sent me an e-mail saying Ms. I was surprised because he had been referring to me correctly for some time and any official documents he might [...]
Media Mishaps and My Ongoing Irritation
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged being trans, Internet, language, media on August 29, 2011 | 14 Comments »
Oh, the media! I was a member of the media for eight years when I wrote for, and later became managing editor of, Out Front Colorado, one of the oldest LGBT publications in the country. But while I’m not there anymore, as a blogger, some might still consider me a member of the media. Neither [...]
Ask Matt: The ‘It’ Word
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged coming out, community, gender identity, identity, language, pronouns on August 4, 2011 | 13 Comments »
A reader writes: “I came out as FTM to my friends about two years ago. Most of them took it well and started addressing me as male. The problem is that I live in small town, and my community of friends is made up of people from many surrounding small towns. Sometimes new people join [...]
Ask Matt: Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and Trans Parents
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged family, gender expectations, gender roles, holidays, language, transition on May 26, 2011 | 16 Comments »
A reader writes: “I have two grown children, ages 20 and 22. I gave birth to them and raised them and now that they are grown and I am in transition to male, my daughter asked me which day should we celebrate – Mother’s or Father’s Day? “I personally don’t want to celebrate either because [...]
‘Non’ is the ‘Op’-erative Word
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged bodies, identity, language, restrooms, surgery, transsexual on April 28, 2011 | 47 Comments »
I was presenting on a trans panel recently, and the facilitator asked each of us to introduce ourselves and say a little about ourselves, including whether we were pre-op, post-op, or non-op. Although I was slightly taken aback, I simply waited my turn and explained that I don’t identify myself by my operations. I have [...]
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Ask Matt: Should Gender Dysphoria Be in the DSM?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Information, Observations, tagged being trans, health, language, therapy, transition on April 16, 2012 | 34 Comments »
A reader writes: “The DSM-V is coming out at the end of the year, and the big question of whether or not gender identity disorder will appear is being decided now, I believe. I heard something about that they gave the revision of this part to the wrong people, and that something terrible could come [...]
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