A reader writes: “One thing that’s been on my mind and has begun to gnaw at me is the possibility of losing my visibility within the GLBTQ community. “Once I have my top surgery in a few months, I’m scared that I’m going to be pegged as cis and straight. Is this something you were [...]
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Ask Matt: Losing Visibility in the LGBTQ Community
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged community, identity, LGBT, transition on October 6, 2011 | 12 Comments »
Ask Matt: Finding Out a Trans Person’s Sexual Orientation
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged LGBT, relationships, sexual orientation on August 8, 2011 | 26 Comments »
A reader writes: “What is the proper way to find out if a trans person is interested in dating men or women? I feel awkward asking point-blank and do not want to offend.” Honestly, finding out a trans person’s sexual orientation is the same process of discovery that it is with a non-trans person. The [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Gender Confusion – City, Suburbs, and Small Towns
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged assimilation, being trans, gender expectations, gender expression, gender roles, LGBT, sexual orientation on July 4, 2011 | 9 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a gay trans guy in my mid twenties who just moved to a gay neighborhood in a large city. I’m originally from a relatively small town, where I was living a double life. I was “she” at home (living with family), but when I’d go out with friends I met through [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Blind and Trans
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, community, gender expectations, gender expression, LGBT, masculinity, restrooms on June 13, 2011 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a blind trans guy and want to know about the things I need to know that I can’t just observe men doing. I heard that there’s a time to hug someone and a time not to, and that these things are different for men. Can you explain this? “Also, how [...]
Ask Matt: Lesbians, Trans Men, and the Great Divide
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged community, LGBT on June 2, 2011 | 13 Comments »
A reader writes: “A few months ago, a trans man I know was asked to be a featured presenter at a lesbian event. Although the event is public and open to all, it is primarily planned by and for butch lesbians and their friends and admirers. Trans men have always been welcome at this event, [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Transient Trans People in LGBT Programs
Posted in Ask Matt, Information, Observations, tagged being trans, community, discrimination, LGBT, transphobia on May 2, 2011 | 26 Comments »
A non-trans lesbian acquaintance recently asked, “Why are trans people so transient in the LGBT community?” She runs a program at an LGBT center, and she said that trans participants seem to come and go in her program as well as in other programs that the center provides. She wondered if this kind of off-again, [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Drag Shows are a Drag at Trans Events
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged community, conferences, drag, entertainment, gender expression, LGBT on March 14, 2011 | 24 Comments »
A reader writes: “Why is there usually (always?) a drag show at transgender events? I don’t see how drag kings and drag queens have anything to do with transgender people. Drag queens and drag kings dress up in the opposite gender’s attire and lip sync to music. What does that have to do with living [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Would You Be Gay If You Weren’t Trans?
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, LGBT, relationships, sexual orientation on March 7, 2011 | 26 Comments »
A reader writes: “If you had been born as a cis male and raised as a typical boy, do you think you would have still been gay?” While that’s impossible to really say, because sexual orientation doesn’t have anything to do with birth sex (or sex assigned at birth) or how a person is raised, [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Trans Men, Gay Communities
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being out, community, identity, LGBT, sexual orientation, trans men on January 3, 2011 | 37 Comments »
A reader writes: “How could one change the current climate for gay trans men in the gay male community?” My answer: One mind at a time. This is a continuation of last week’s Ask Matt Monday, which dealt with trans men and lesbian communities. And this is a tough one, because I think there is [...]
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LGBT History: Teaching the Real History of the United States
Posted in Commentary, News, Observations, tagged community, education, history, LGBT, trans education, transgender on April 21, 2011 | 10 Comments »
A bill working its way through the California state legislature would mandate the teaching of LGBT history in California schools, reports Chicago Pride. If the bill passes, the LGBT community would join several other marginalized groups whose history has been identified as a required topic. I think this is extremely important, and I hope the [...]
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