A reader writes: “I’m a gay trans man about four months on T, and I’m making plans to schedule top surgery soon. Although my overall gender identity is pretty much binarily male, my sexual identity seems more dual-gender, in that when I’m feeling aroused, nipple stimulation and visualizing myself with a mixture of both male [...]
Posts Tagged ‘masculinity’
Ask Matt: The Breast of Both Worlds
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, Observations, tagged bodies, masculinity, sex, sexual orientation, surgery, transition on January 16, 2012 | 11 Comments »
Tranifesto’s Most Popular Posts of 2011
Posted in Information, Observations, tagged Chaz Bono, gender identity, identity, LGBT, masculinity, relationships, testosterone on January 2, 2012 | 5 Comments »
WordPress just sent me a “Your 2011 Year in Blogging” report that provides a year-end summary of the most viewed and most commented on posts for the year. Although I can always see my stats, it’s nice to have all that information in an organized little bundle. So to welcome in 2012, I’m going to [...]
Ask Matt: Peeing with Pop
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged bodies, family, gender roles, masculinity, privacy, restrooms, trans men on December 5, 2011 | 19 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am trying to think ahead on an awkward situation. I have the use of an STP (stand-to-pee device) down and have been using the men’s room for quite a while now. “I have yet been in a situation where I have had to hit the head with my father or brothers, [...]
Ask Matt: The Culture of ‘Male Bravado’
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged gender expectations, gender roles, masculinity, trans men on November 17, 2011 | 11 Comments »
A reader writes: “What experiences have you had with male bravado? A few weeks ago I had a situation in which I had to step up and face down a non-trans male in protection of a female co-worker. This was a completely new experience for me. I am physically a short-statured guy and he was [...]
Ask Matt: Coming Home to One’s True Nature
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged femininity, gender identity, masculinity, transition, transsexual on September 22, 2011 | 52 Comments »
A reader writes: “How does one who generally has presented as femme find their male identity? How does one ‘come home’ to their true nature? I – and everyone else I know – have always presented as masculine or butch, so we always saw our maleness for the most part.” This is a tough question, [...]
Meanness Doesn’t Equal ‘Man-ness’
Posted in Commentary, tagged gender expectations, gender roles, hormones, masculinity, testosterone on August 25, 2011 | 20 Comments »
One of the worst fights that I have ever seen – besides on television and in Sylvester Stallone films – was when I was a junior high teacher many years ago. I was in the classroom during a break, and a student came running in, shouting, “Miss Kailey, Miss Kailey (that was my name then). [...]
In the Beginning: My First Trans Support Group
Posted in Information, Teeny Weenies Excerpts, tagged being trans, books, community, gender identity, masculinity, transition on August 22, 2011 | 22 Comments »
Since we recently talked about trans support groups (if you missed that discussion, I invite you to read Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3), I thought that, in addition to today’s Ask Matt (see the post below), I would offer up an excerpt from my book-in-the-works. I present this experience in the hope that [...]
Finger Length and Penis Length: Cheated Out of My Legacy
Posted in Observations, tagged bodies, masculinity, trans men on July 7, 2011 | 11 Comments »
(Note: It’s been pointed out to me that I read this whole study wrong – that’s what no sleep and moving heavy boxes does to your brain. But as I said in the comments section, it really doesn’t matter, because my fingers are pretty much the longest thing I have!) I knew I was supposed [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Blind and Trans
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, community, gender expectations, gender expression, LGBT, masculinity, restrooms on June 13, 2011 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a blind trans guy and want to know about the things I need to know that I can’t just observe men doing. I heard that there’s a time to hug someone and a time not to, and that these things are different for men. Can you explain this? “Also, how [...]
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‘Mom, I Just Can’t Take the Crying’
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged femininity, gender expression, gender roles, hormones, masculinity, testosterone, trans men, transition on December 1, 2011 | 20 Comments »
When my nephew was about four or five, his best friend was a little girl of the same age. My sister and the girl’s mother were friends, so the two kids grew up together. My nephew was and is a sensitive child in many ways. He has always shared his toys, stopped to help other [...]
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