A reader writes: “What experiences have you had with male bravado? A few weeks ago I had a situation in which I had to step up and face down a non-trans male in protection of a female co-worker. This was a completely new experience for me. I am physically a short-statured guy and he was [...]
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Ask Matt: The Culture of ‘Male Bravado’
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged gender expectations, gender roles, masculinity, trans men on November 17, 2011 | 11 Comments »
Ask Matt: Coming Home to One’s True Nature
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged femininity, gender identity, masculinity, transition, transsexual on September 22, 2011 | 53 Comments »
A reader writes: “How does one who generally has presented as femme find their male identity? How does one ‘come home’ to their true nature? I – and everyone else I know – have always presented as masculine or butch, so we always saw our maleness for the most part.” This is a tough question, [...]
Meanness Doesn’t Equal ‘Man-ness’
Posted in Commentary, tagged gender expectations, gender roles, hormones, masculinity, testosterone on August 25, 2011 | 20 Comments »
One of the worst fights that I have ever seen – besides on television and in Sylvester Stallone films – was when I was a junior high teacher many years ago. I was in the classroom during a break, and a student came running in, shouting, “Miss Kailey, Miss Kailey (that was my name then). [...]
In the Beginning: My First Trans Support Group
Posted in Information, Teeny Weenies Excerpts, tagged being trans, books, community, gender identity, masculinity, transition on August 22, 2011 | 22 Comments »
Since we recently talked about trans support groups (if you missed that discussion, I invite you to read Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3), I thought that, in addition to today’s Ask Matt (see the post below), I would offer up an excerpt from my book-in-the-works. I present this experience in the hope that [...]
Finger Length and Penis Length: Cheated Out of My Legacy
Posted in Observations, tagged bodies, masculinity, trans men on July 7, 2011 | 11 Comments »
(Note: It’s been pointed out to me that I read this whole study wrong – that’s what no sleep and moving heavy boxes does to your brain. But as I said in the comments section, it really doesn’t matter, because my fingers are pretty much the longest thing I have!) I knew I was supposed [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Blind and Trans
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, community, gender expectations, gender expression, LGBT, masculinity, restrooms on June 13, 2011 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a blind trans guy and want to know about the things I need to know that I can’t just observe men doing. I heard that there’s a time to hug someone and a time not to, and that these things are different for men. Can you explain this? “Also, how [...]
Ask Matt Monday: To Smile or Not To Smile
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, Observations, tagged femininity, gender expectations, gender expression, gender roles, masculinity, restrooms on May 9, 2011 | 22 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m in the very early stages of female-to-male transition and wonder if smiling should be among the mannerisms I’m trying to change. I know that many men smile. For me smiling didn’t come naturally, however, and because of certain circumstances, I associate it with femininity and internalized transphobia. “When I was a [...]
A ‘Gender-Free World’ Might Default to Male
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged femininity, gender, gender identity, identity, masculinity on March 31, 2011 | 37 Comments »
In response to Monday’s post about the need to transition in a gender-free world, some readers questioned what such a world might look like and whether or not it could actually exist. I personally have no idea, but that has never stopped me from writing about something before. My theory, which was always kind of [...]
Ask Matt: How Can I Enjoy Sex When I Hate My Body?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged bodies, masculinity, relationships, sex, sexual orientation, surgery, trans men on March 10, 2011 | 23 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a trans boy who only likes sex with boys (trans or cissexual) and I am a top. “As you may know, we trans men can’t achieve “normative” male genitals (that function completely like a non-trans male’s) through surgery. This makes me miserable, given that my entire life, my sexual fantasies [...]
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‘Mom, I Just Can’t Take the Crying’
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged femininity, gender expression, gender roles, hormones, masculinity, testosterone, trans men, transition on December 1, 2011 | 20 Comments »
When my nephew was about four or five, his best friend was a little girl of the same age. My sister and the girl’s mother were friends, so the two kids grew up together. My nephew was and is a sensitive child in many ways. He has always shared his toys, stopped to help other [...]
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