A reader writes: “What do FTMs do if they are attracted to gay men who are more on the femme side? I’ve observed that some femme gay men can be petty about dick size. I’m a top and I’m not quite sure how to handle this situation.” This kind of reminds me of those “if/then” [...]
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Ask Matt Monday: Size and the Single Gay Trans Guy
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being out, bodies, Internet, relationships, sex, trans men on May 30, 2011 | 28 Comments »
Ask Matt Monday: Asking for a Marriage Blessing
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged family, gender identity, gender roles, relationships, same-sex marriage, trans men on April 18, 2011 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a transguy who’s been exclusively and quite seriously dating another transguy for about a year now. Though we have been dating for a relatively short time, I am sure I want to settle down with this guy. I plan on proposing soon. I am 99 percent sure he will say yes. [...]
Ask Matt: How Can I Enjoy Sex When I Hate My Body?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged bodies, masculinity, relationships, sex, sexual orientation, surgery, trans men on March 10, 2011 | 23 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a trans boy who only likes sex with boys (trans or cissexual) and I am a top. “As you may know, we trans men can’t achieve “normative” male genitals (that function completely like a non-trans male’s) through surgery. This makes me miserable, given that my entire life, my sexual fantasies [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Would You Be Gay If You Weren’t Trans?
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, LGBT, relationships, sexual orientation on March 7, 2011 | 26 Comments »
A reader writes: “If you had been born as a cis male and raised as a typical boy, do you think you would have still been gay?” While that’s impossible to really say, because sexual orientation doesn’t have anything to do with birth sex (or sex assigned at birth) or how a person is raised, [...]
Ask Matt Monday: When Can I Stop Explaining?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged being trans, family, relationships, trans education, transition on February 28, 2011 | 18 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am lucky enough to have a number of people in my life who, though they ‘cannot understand’ my experiences, are truly empathetic and supportive. “But I have hit a wall with a couple of people – not in terms of the reality of gender dysphoria, but in the extent of it. [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Physical Appearance in a Relationship
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, gender expression, relationships, transition on February 21, 2011 | 18 Comments »
Can a relationship survive a physical transition? After some recent relationship-oriented posts, I have heard from a few readers expressing concern that transition will end a relationship because of the physical changes a person who transitions goes through. In this case, we’re not talking genitalia. We’re talking physical appearance – what your partner sees when [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Bad Luck with Straight Women
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged bodies, gender expectations, gender roles, relationships, sex, trans men on February 14, 2011 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I have dated only straight girls. Many of them haven’t ever been in bed with someone with a non-male body. Likewise I haven’t been in bed with any male, so maybe I have the wrong idea about things. “I understand that for born males, once you get in, it’s on and you [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Trans Partners and a Sex-Role Conundrum
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged bodies, femininity, gender roles, masculinity, relationships, sex, trans men, trans women on January 17, 2011 | 19 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a trans man dating a trans woman. She has finished her surgeries, and I’m on hormone therapy, with no genital surgery yet. My girlfriend and I are trying to find ways to pleasure me without feminizing myself and without putting her back in the male role. She doesn’t want to [...]
Ask Matt Monday: In Love with a Trans Woman
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged gender expectations, gender roles, hormones, relationships, trans women, transition on January 10, 2011 | 25 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am not transgender, but a heterosexual female who is interested in a male that is coming out as a female, doing the HRT (hormone therapy), dressing, and transitioning as a women, but still keeping the male bits (wedding tackle), as it were. “In your opinion, is it possible to succeed in [...]
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Marriage Equality is Still a Trans Issue
Posted in Commentary, tagged discrimination, legal, relationships, same-sex marriage, sexual orientation, trans men on January 6, 2011 | 27 Comments »
I never thought that a government official (or almost anyone, really) would be all that interested in seeing my naked netherparts. And I never thought that I might have to flash a county clerk in order to obtain a particular government service. But that’s apparently what they’re expected to do in Michigan – at least [...]
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