A reader writes: “I’m a gay trans man about four months on T, and I’m making plans to schedule top surgery soon. Although my overall gender identity is pretty much binarily male, my sexual identity seems more dual-gender, in that when I’m feeling aroused, nipple stimulation and visualizing myself with a mixture of both male [...]
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Ask Matt: The Breast of Both Worlds
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, Observations, tagged bodies, masculinity, sex, sexual orientation, surgery, transition on January 16, 2012 | 11 Comments »
Ask Matt: Partners and Personal Questions
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged activism, bodies, privacy, relationships, sex, trans men on October 10, 2011 | 33 Comments »
A reader writes: “I met my boyfriend last year during Vagina Monologue auditions and was curious about the obvious man in the room interloping our feminist space. After we were introduced, our friendship grew, as did my love for him and my understanding of what it means to transition. “My boyfriend is open about his [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Size and the Single Gay Trans Guy
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being out, bodies, Internet, relationships, sex, trans men on May 30, 2011 | 27 Comments »
A reader writes: “What do FTMs do if they are attracted to gay men who are more on the femme side? I’ve observed that some femme gay men can be petty about dick size. I’m a top and I’m not quite sure how to handle this situation.” This kind of reminds me of those “if/then” [...]
Ask Matt: How Can I Enjoy Sex When I Hate My Body?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged bodies, masculinity, relationships, sex, sexual orientation, surgery, trans men on March 10, 2011 | 23 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a trans boy who only likes sex with boys (trans or cissexual) and I am a top. “As you may know, we trans men can’t achieve “normative” male genitals (that function completely like a non-trans male’s) through surgery. This makes me miserable, given that my entire life, my sexual fantasies [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Bad Luck with Straight Women
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged bodies, gender expectations, gender roles, relationships, sex, trans men on February 14, 2011 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I have dated only straight girls. Many of them haven’t ever been in bed with someone with a non-male body. Likewise I haven’t been in bed with any male, so maybe I have the wrong idea about things. “I understand that for born males, once you get in, it’s on and you [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Trans Partners and a Sex-Role Conundrum
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged bodies, femininity, gender roles, masculinity, relationships, sex, trans men, trans women on January 17, 2011 | 18 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a trans man dating a trans woman. She has finished her surgeries, and I’m on hormone therapy, with no genital surgery yet. My girlfriend and I are trying to find ways to pleasure me without feminizing myself and without putting her back in the male role. She doesn’t want to [...]
Ask Matt Monday: My Guy Doesn’t Want to Have Sex
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged gender expectations, gender roles, hormones, relationships, sex, testosterone, trans men on December 13, 2010 | 10 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am dating a trans man and am really smitten. He transitioned more than 10 years ago. So far he has been very reluctant to be intimate with me other than some kissing and cuddling. My drive is rather high and I need affection. He tells me that he’s nervous because he [...]
Ask Matt Monday: In Bed with a Trans Man
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged bodies, hormones, language, relationships, sex, surgery, testosterone, trans men on October 18, 2010 | 6 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a queer woman dating a trans guy. This is all very new to me, and a very sensitive subject to him. This person is in transition, having T regularly, is planning top surgery, but has no intentions to change his sex. “What do I call his sex? What do I [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Too Much Information!
Posted in Ask Matt, Information, tagged being out, being trans, bodies, education, sex, transition, transsexual on October 4, 2010 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “In last week’s Ask Matt, one of the questions the students asked you was ‘Do you/would you have vaginal sex?’ I was shocked – not by your answer, but by the question. I would never dream of asking anyone anything so intimate about their sex life, unless of course I was sleeping [...]
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Rep. Chris Lee: When Trans in a Headline Matters
Posted in Commentary, News, Observations, tagged discrimination, Internet, politics, sex, transphobia on March 3, 2011 | 16 Comments »
I have written before about the use of the terms transgender and transsexual in headlines. In many instances (far too many), the press goes after these words as if they were gold – and in a way, they are, if you want to sensationalize your news and get as much traffic as possible to your [...]
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