A reader writes: “In last week’s Ask Matt, one of the questions the students asked you was ‘Do you/would you have vaginal sex?’ I was shocked – not by your answer, but by the question. I would never dream of asking anyone anything so intimate about their sex life, unless of course I was sleeping [...]
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Ask Matt Monday: Too Much Information!
Posted in Ask Matt, Information, tagged being out, being trans, bodies, education, sex, transition, transsexual on October 4, 2010 | 8 Comments »
Ask Matt Monday: Transgender Lightning Round
Posted in Ask Matt, tagged being trans, bodies, gender expectations, gender expression, sex, trans men, transition on September 27, 2010 | 18 Comments »
Trans issues aren’t always black and white, and most questions aren’t easily answered with a “yes” or “no.” But I was speaking to a college class the other day, and the professor had an interesting exercise for the students. He took five minutes, went down the rows, and had each students ask me a question [...]
Ask Matt: Why are Gay Trans Guys So Obsessed with Sex?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged hormones, relationships, sex, sexual orientation, testosterone, trans men on August 9, 2010 | 11 Comments »
A reader asks, “Am I the only gay trans guy not looking to have tons of sex with as many strangers as possible?” Well, no. You’re one of two (me being the other). Seriously, I don’t think every gay trans guy is looking to have tons of sex, but I honestly think that a lot [...]
Male, Female, Transgender – Pick One?
Posted in Observations, tagged gender, gender identity, identity, sex, transgender on July 1, 2010 | 25 Comments »
I was looking at an LGBT survey the other day, and the choices for “Gender” included “Male,” “Female,” “Transgender,” “Intersex,” and “Self-Identify.” There was no category for “Sex.” (My mom thought she was so clever – whenever she filled out a form that asked for “Sex,” she always put “Yes.” I never told her that [...]
Testosterone and Sex Drive: My Second Adolescence
Posted in Commentary, Information, Observations, tagged hormones, relationships, sex, testosterone, trans men, transition on June 30, 2010 | 11 Comments »
Everyone’s sex drive is different, and everyone responds differently to this particular biological force (except the boys in my 8th grade language arts class when I was teaching, who morphed en masse into beings from another planet as soon as puberty hit). So, although I am posting this in response to a new reader’s question [...]
Flibanserin: Is a ‘Female-Desire’ Drug a Bad Thing?
Posted in Commentary, Information, News, tagged health, hormones, relationships, sex, testosterone on June 29, 2010 | 35 Comments »
A “female-desire” drug, flibanserin, has just been rejected by the FDA, and it’s back to the drawing board (or the headboard) for big pharma. As someone who has experienced the impact of testosterone on the sex drive after years of experiencing the impact of estrogen on the sex drive, I personally don’t have a problem [...]
FAQ: Why Don’t You Date Bisexuals?
Posted in FAQs, Observations, tagged bodies, LGBT, relationships, sex, sexual orientation on July 28, 2009 | 6 Comments »
When I was first transitioning and couldn’t find a date (as opposed to now, when I can’t find a date), a lot of well-meaning people suggested that I “find a bisexual.” One person even said, “They could have the best of both worlds!” (I’m not making this up.) Now I know several people who identify [...]
10 Things That Don’t Keep Me Up at Night
Posted in Observations, tagged being trans, bodies, passing, religion, restrooms, sex, transition on July 24, 2009 | 3 Comments »
Stephen King calls them the “wolf hours” — those wee morning hours when you wake up and worry about everything in the world that has gone wrong or might go wrong or definitely will go wrong if you don’t lie awake and worry about it. I do that a lot — which is one of [...]
‘Orgasm a day’ for British Teens
Posted in News, Observations, tagged education, health, hormones, sex on July 13, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Whether you find it offensive or delightful, there’s one thing we can probably all agree on — it wouldn’t happen in the U.S. The National Health Service in Britain has distributed a pamphlet touting the health benefits of an enjoyable sex life and “an orgasm a day” for teens. Some people are outraged and some [...]
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The Amazing Disappearing Trans Sexual Orientation
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged bodies, LGBT, relationships, sex, sexual orientation, transgender on September 23, 2010 | 13 Comments »
Trans survey-takers ran into a glitch recently when an otherwise inclusive organization posted an online survey targeted to LGBT people and dealing with discrimination, employment, violence, and other issues important to the community. When some trans people chose the answer “Straight” under the sexual-orientation category, they received a polite message saying, in effect, that they [...]
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