A reader writes: “I’m a gay trans man about four months on T, and I’m making plans to schedule top surgery soon. Although my overall gender identity is pretty much binarily male, my sexual identity seems more dual-gender, in that when I’m feeling aroused, nipple stimulation and visualizing myself with a mixture of both male [...]
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Ask Matt: The Breast of Both Worlds
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, Observations, tagged bodies, masculinity, sex, sexual orientation, surgery, transition on January 16, 2012 | 11 Comments »
My Annual Thanksgiving Coming-Out Poem
Posted in Observations, tagged coming out, family, holidays, LGBT, sexual orientation, Thanksgiving on November 24, 2011 | 4 Comments »
If you’ve been reading my blog for over a year, you can probably skip this entry. Tradition (and my desire to take a vacation myself) dictates that, every Thanksgiving, I publish my Thanksgiving coming-out poem, so my faithful long-time readers have seen this before (maybe twice before!). For the rest of you – join the [...]
Controversy Compounded: Lesbian Couple Raising Transgender Child
Posted in Commentary, News, tagged family, gender identity, homophobia, LGBT, sexual orientation, transphobia on October 20, 2011 | 14 Comments »
Could we not anticipate the brouhaha? Even when a “nice,” “normal,” “perfectly acceptable” heterosexual couple recognizes that their child is trans and decides to takes steps to make the child’s life as comfortable as possible as soon as possible, they are blasted by all manner of folk who really need to be worried about their [...]
Ask Matt: Offensive Behavior or Normal Reaction?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged bodies, etiquette, gender expression, sexual orientation on September 8, 2011 | 17 Comments »
A reader writes: “I was a participant at the 100th Bay-to-Breakers race, where, among many other naked people, I saw a person with distinctly feminine breasts and a distinctly masculine penis. “I must admit, in a brief, surprised stupor, that I looked for slightly longer than I would normally look at a naked man, yet [...]
Chaz Bono on TV: Explaining Heterosexual Dancing to the Children
Posted in Commentary, tagged Chaz Bono, sexual orientation, television, transphobia on September 1, 2011 | 30 Comments »
The uproar hasn’t stopped since it was announced that Chaz Bono will be one of the cast on ABC’s Dancing with the Stars, which premieres on September 19. While there are many people who are supportive of Chaz and his appearance, plenty more crawled out from under their rocks to be shocked, appalled, and offended [...]
Ask Matt: Finding Out a Trans Person’s Sexual Orientation
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged LGBT, relationships, sexual orientation on August 8, 2011 | 26 Comments »
A reader writes: “What is the proper way to find out if a trans person is interested in dating men or women? I feel awkward asking point-blank and do not want to offend.” Honestly, finding out a trans person’s sexual orientation is the same process of discovery that it is with a non-trans person. The [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Gender Confusion – City, Suburbs, and Small Towns
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged assimilation, being trans, gender expectations, gender expression, gender roles, LGBT, sexual orientation on July 4, 2011 | 9 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a gay trans guy in my mid twenties who just moved to a gay neighborhood in a large city. I’m originally from a relatively small town, where I was living a double life. I was “she” at home (living with family), but when I’d go out with friends I met through [...]
Ask Matt: How Can I Enjoy Sex When I Hate My Body?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged bodies, masculinity, relationships, sex, sexual orientation, surgery, trans men on March 10, 2011 | 23 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a trans boy who only likes sex with boys (trans or cissexual) and I am a top. “As you may know, we trans men can’t achieve “normative” male genitals (that function completely like a non-trans male’s) through surgery. This makes me miserable, given that my entire life, my sexual fantasies [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Would You Be Gay If You Weren’t Trans?
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, LGBT, relationships, sexual orientation on March 7, 2011 | 26 Comments »
A reader writes: “If you had been born as a cis male and raised as a typical boy, do you think you would have still been gay?” While that’s impossible to really say, because sexual orientation doesn’t have anything to do with birth sex (or sex assigned at birth) or how a person is raised, [...]
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Ask Matt: Do Both Trans Men and Trans Women Prefer Female Partners?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged gender expectations, LGBT, relationships, sexual orientation on January 30, 2012 | 26 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m a trans woman. Recently I have wondered why there seems to be a much greater percentage of trans women who seek relationships with women than trans men who seek relationships with other men. “Stephen Ira’s (Warren Beatty and Annette Bening’s son) story of having a boyfriend started me thinking. He is [...]
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