A reader writes: “I’m a gay trans guy in my mid twenties who just moved to a gay neighborhood in a large city. I’m originally from a relatively small town, where I was living a double life. I was “she” at home (living with family), but when I’d go out with friends I met through [...]
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Ask Matt Monday: Gender Confusion – City, Suburbs, and Small Towns
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged assimilation, being trans, gender expectations, gender expression, gender roles, LGBT, sexual orientation on July 4, 2011 | 9 Comments »
Ask Matt: How Can I Enjoy Sex When I Hate My Body?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged bodies, masculinity, relationships, sex, sexual orientation, surgery, trans men on March 10, 2011 | 23 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a trans boy who only likes sex with boys (trans or cissexual) and I am a top. “As you may know, we trans men can’t achieve “normative” male genitals (that function completely like a non-trans male’s) through surgery. This makes me miserable, given that my entire life, my sexual fantasies [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Would You Be Gay If You Weren’t Trans?
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, LGBT, relationships, sexual orientation on March 7, 2011 | 26 Comments »
A reader writes: “If you had been born as a cis male and raised as a typical boy, do you think you would have still been gay?” While that’s impossible to really say, because sexual orientation doesn’t have anything to do with birth sex (or sex assigned at birth) or how a person is raised, [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Trans Men, Gay Communities
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being out, community, identity, LGBT, sexual orientation, trans men on January 3, 2011 | 37 Comments »
A reader writes: “How could one change the current climate for gay trans men in the gay male community?” My answer: One mind at a time. This is a continuation of last week’s Ask Matt Monday, which dealt with trans men and lesbian communities. And this is a tough one, because I think there is [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Trans Men, Lesbian Communities
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Observations, tagged community, discrimination, gender expectations, gender expression, LGBT, masculinity, sexual orientation, trans men on December 27, 2010 | 23 Comments »
A reader writes: “How do you feel about the current climate in lesbian communities regarding trans men? Do you think that trans men are being fetishized/exoticized at the expense of allowing trans women into the fold? What sort of arguments would you make to lesbians who insist on pursuing trans men while eschewing cis men? [...]
A Thanksgiving Coming Out: My Traditional Holiday Poem
Posted in Observations, tagged coming out, family, holidays, LGBT, sexual orientation, Thanksgiving on November 25, 2010 | 11 Comments »
If you have been reading my blog for a year or more (thank you!), you’ve already seen this poem. If not, I bring you my traditional Thanksgiving coming-out poem, which is gay-themed, not trans-themed, but still worth a read. So “Happy Holiday” to those of you who observe Thanksgiving, thank you to my wonderful readers, [...]
Trans Guys: Lesbians in Men’s Clothing?
Posted in Commentary, tagged being trans, bodies, gender, identity, LGBT, sexual orientation, trans men, transition, transsexual on November 11, 2010 | 31 Comments »
When I told my sister that I was going to transition from female to male, the first thing she said was: “Are you sure you’re not just a lesbian?” Having been with men all my life, having been attracted to men all my life, and having attempted, unsuccessfully, to be a lesbian in early adolescence [...]
Ask Matt Monday: Is a Dyke with a Trans Man Still a Dyke?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged being trans, community, identity, LGBT, relationships, sexual orientation, transition on November 1, 2010 | 31 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am a dyke who is involved with an individual who questions their gender as female to male. I am comfortable with this, but I wonder how I would identify myself if she/he decided to fully identify as male. “I’m wondering what you and your readers think about a situation like this. [...]
The Amazing Disappearing Trans Sexual Orientation
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged bodies, LGBT, relationships, sex, sexual orientation, transgender on September 23, 2010 | 13 Comments »
Trans survey-takers ran into a glitch recently when an otherwise inclusive organization posted an online survey targeted to LGBT people and dealing with discrimination, employment, violence, and other issues important to the community. When some trans people chose the answer “Straight” under the sexual-orientation category, they received a polite message saying, in effect, that they [...]
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Marriage Equality is Still a Trans Issue
Posted in Commentary, tagged discrimination, legal, relationships, same-sex marriage, sexual orientation, trans men on January 6, 2011 | 27 Comments »
I never thought that a government official (or almost anyone, really) would be all that interested in seeing my naked netherparts. And I never thought that I might have to flash a county clerk in order to obtain a particular government service. But that’s apparently what they’re expected to do in Michigan – at least [...]
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