A reader writes: “I’m an author who wishes to include a trans person in her fictional writings. I fear I know little to nothing about trans people as a whole, however. “And while I believe trans people should be treated as people, I also don’t want to write a woman as cis and then claim [...]
Posts Tagged ‘transsexual’
Ask Matt: Writing a Trans Character in Fiction
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, Observations, tagged being out, being trans, books, trans women, transition, transsexual on May 3, 2012 | 32 Comments »
Ask Matt: What’s Wrong with the U.S. Health Care System?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged bodies, health care, surgery, transition, transsexual on January 23, 2012 | 9 Comments »
A reader writes: “As a European living in New York, I find the U.S. health insurance system bewildering, to put it mildly. A German friend just had his bottom surgery done (is in the process of – seems to take a lot of steps, including complications) and there is no question that his health insurance [...]
Ask Matt: Coming Home to One’s True Nature
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged femininity, gender identity, masculinity, transition, transsexual on September 22, 2011 | 53 Comments »
A reader writes: “How does one who generally has presented as femme find their male identity? How does one ‘come home’ to their true nature? I – and everyone else I know – have always presented as masculine or butch, so we always saw our maleness for the most part.” This is a tough question, [...]
Ask Matt: Why Take a Risk with Transition Surgery?
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged health care, surgery, transsexual on September 5, 2011 | 17 Comments »
A reader writes: “I am currently a transvestite, and I am wondering why anyone would risk possible infection or complications involved with transgender surgery. I would be interested to hear what you think.” I definitely have an opinion on this (don’t I always?), but in this case, I believe that my opinion is backed up [...]
Ask Matt: Petitioning for Name and Gender-Marker Change
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, Information, tagged gender identity, legal, transition, transsexual on August 29, 2011 | 8 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’m just starting the process to get my name and gender marker legally changed. I was born and live in Colorado. I’m going to use the court system in a county that hasn’t seen a petition of this type, at least that I’m aware of. I will not be using a lawyer [...]
Ask Matt: Coming Out When People Don’t Have a Clue
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged books, coming out, transition, transphobia, transsexual on August 15, 2011 | 7 Comments »
A reader writes: “I have a hard time coming out as trans to people. I would rather be called by female pronouns and the wrong name than deal with the awkwardness of the conversation and all of the explanations I’m afraid I’m going to have to make. “Part of the problem is that I have [...]
Ask Matt: Will I Ever Forget That I’m Trans?
Posted in Ask Matt, Observations, tagged being trans, bodies, trans men, trans women, transition, transsexual on July 28, 2011 | 39 Comments »
A reader writes: “Unlike some, I believe that I was born transsexual because of my sex – I had a penis, not a vagina, but my gender was female. I was 60 when I came out and am now 65. My question: might there ever be a day, a week, a month, a year when [...]
When Perseverance Becomes Self-Destruction
Posted in Commentary, Observations, tagged being trans, identity, relationships, transgender, transsexual on July 11, 2011 | 10 Comments »
I just moved to a new place where I have to go outside to smoke (this is a good thing – it will help me cut down). The other night, every time I went outside, I accidentally tore down a web that a spider was building right across the door. I would tear it just [...]
Ask Matt: Trans Siblings Double Trouble for Parents?
Posted in Advice, Ask Matt, tagged coming out, family, identity, transition, transsexual on May 5, 2011 | 10 Comments »
A reader writes: “I’ve had an idea that I might be transsexual for a number of years now. I’ve kept it pretty quiet until now, and even then have only muttered it to a couple people who I trust, because I’d like to start making some changes in my life. “My problem is this – [...]




Ask Matt: So Are You Single?
Posted in Ask Matt, Commentary, Information, Observations, tagged community, identity, relationships, transition, transsexual on January 5, 2012 | 37 Comments »
A reader writes: “So are you single?” Yes. Short question, short answer. But if you’ve been reading for a while, you know that I can’t just give a short answer to anything. I think being single is an important thing to talk about, because relationships, while a primary concern of many people in general, are [...]
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